An interestingly stupid question

Today I read an article that poses the question "Should you tell a friend that she is fat?" Yes, it really was an article. The advice ranged from "No way. I'd keep my mouth shut. After all, she knows if she is fat" to "Yes, I would tell her, especially if I thought her health was in danger."

Those of you who know me know I've battled weight issues all of my life. I've been fatter than now; I've been way skinnier than now and everywhere in between. Weight has always been a sensitive issue in my life. I always used to say that if a man I was dating ever made a deragatory comment about my weight, he'd be outta here. So given my history, I can't believe this question.

Truly, when you are fat, you know you are fat. You think I don't realize that I've put on 15 lbs. since last year? You think I don't notice EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE that I've developed a lovely little muffin top? (thanks 40) The most crushing thing a so-called friend could say to me is "Mrs, I notice you've gotten kinda fat lately. I'm worried about you. Is there anything I can do to help?" Yes, shut your effin' mouth would be a good start. Someone making a negative comment about my weight would only do one thing--make me want to eat more. I know it sounds weird, but that would be my response. It wouldn't motivate me to lose weight or get more fit. It would piss me off and it doesn't matter that I would hurt myself more by eating more, that would be the response.

To me the definition of a friend is someone who accepts and loves you unconditionally. Making comments about her weight to her (or behind her back. Don't even get me started on that) is not being a friend. Does that mean that I don't notice when my friends gain weight? Of course not. Because of my own weight issues, I probably notice sooner than "normal" people because I have a heightened awareness of weight, my own and others. But does that give me a right to say "Hey, fattie. I'm worried you're getting too fat. Can I help you?" under the guise of being a good friend? Get outta here. That is total b.s.

So, what are your thoughts on this interestingly, stupid question?